I just realized that in my last two posts I've talked about "really really really" wanting dessert "really really really" badly, and I can just hear people saying, "you shouldn't completely deny yourself anything, you should just eat in moderation", or "if you completely deny yourself something it's just going to cause you to binge on it later." This is the thing with me and sweets though, when I eat them I just want them even more. There is no "moderation" with me and sweets. Example? I allowed myself to have some dessert on Thanksgiving and I have been STRONGLY craving dessert ever since (I mean COME ON, I'm even dreaming about eating dessert!). Do I regret having dessert on Thanksgiving? No. But I knew that as soon as I had the dessert, my sugar cravings would kick back in again. History has shown that a dessert on a holiday has led to days to even months of daily dessert eating because I just. can't. stop.
It is my hope that I will someday get to a point that I can have some dessert, feel satisfied, and not want any more, but honestly, I don't know if that is ever going to happen for me. I'm beginning to accept the fact that if I allow myself to have a dessert on a special occasion or a holiday, I'm going to have to deal with the cravings of wanting more on the days that follow, and not cave into them. That is what "moderation" is going to have to mean for me, and I'm going to have to be clear with myself about this, or the weight is going to start coming back on again.
Moderation can be once/week or less...when you feel you can safely allow yourself to get to that point. Right now, stick with the diet and after two months decide what you want to do. In two months, you may be over 25 lb's lighter and you will have to ask yourself if its worth having the desert...or not.
ReplyDeleteHave to agree with the both of you. I fall in that same category as well. I think down the line, moderation might work, but in the beginning, you have to cleanse both your mind and your body of the toxins that put us there in the first place. I need to stay strong too. Can't just have one chip, or one nut!!! For me, it's not sugar, but salt and crunch. I even thought salt free chips would work. No, they're even better than the ones with salt on them!!!!!!!!
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